I am catching up on my blogs. Midway in reading this entry, you will see why I had a delay. I hope in reading it that it will help you if you find yourself feeling this way or if you go thru similar things.
May 13, 2021
Blog Episode 13
Poignant Procedure and Purpose
I took a webinar that taught women about mastering the hook aka a tag line to grab the attention of the audience.
One of our homework challenges was to write down the Purpose from my part and the Relevance from the perspective of the audience.
The definition of Poignant has a few meanings but for the purpose of this writing I will use affecting or moving the emotions.
In business, to gain the attraction and have the ability to maintain an audience takes a certain skill set. I mean I am now an entrepreneur and business marketing, advertising and promotion is what sells what I am offering. How else would you know that I am here. But is that really my Purpose thru this endeavor? I do have to say yes to a certain extent.
But what I am is a life coach. That is my purpose. The audience whom I hope becomes my future potential clients don’t look to me for my Facebook ads in the realm of it doing anything but sending them my way, giving me a chance and participating in the work during a session. The relevance from the perspective of the audience comes in the information found in the answers within them.
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Okay, a little transparency. I wrote the above before May 13 and then I just had writer’s block for over a week to finish this blog. So much so that I put off writing all the ones that were to follow this and thankfully that is changing today.
I told a couple classmates that my writer’s block was disappointing me by not keeping the commitment I made to myself in writing 31 days straight. I began making excuses and then worse began calling myself lazy or I was just procrastinating. Frankly, it is true I wasn’t writing my blogs but I was doing so many other things for my business, my personal life and that particular week had extra events like two back to back online conventions for entrepreneurs and coaches, and extra grief from some painful voids. I realized I wasn’t procrastinating or being lazy (thank you K & L) but that I had just shifted gears as I worked thru my pain inside my cocoon. I was still moving inside. It was just different then my plan but it was all still good and necessary.
ACT has many facets to it. But the PURPOSE is to help you with beliefs attached to thoughts that are attached to you and help defuse those beliefs.
Now if I am becoming something new in the form of the butterfly and that is considered a new version of a being, why would I want to keep the caterpillar thoughts when I no longer am keeping the caterpillar body. I now am going to have butterfly thoughts in my butterfly body. I am detaching those caterpillar thoughts for my new ones.
My new purpose is to defuse those beliefs that are about to adhere to my new thoughts.
One of the things in doing this tool is Musical Thoughts. You are asked to come up with lyrics for a song to help you get thru your “stuck” or whatever the issue is and help you defuse the belief about that thought.
I was feeling shy during our practice session but I made up a few songs anyway. Following with the suggestion of my friend, I sang Disney songs to myself video taping me doing it. Funny how you think you know songs and find it is either the chorus or just parts.
But I had chosen two Disney songs and one from the Broadway play Wicked. I sang Almost There from Princess and the Frog, Reflection from Mulan and Defying Gravity from Wicked. Then this morning a meme I had seen before had a pic of a caterpillar sitting at a table with a butterfly. The caterpillar remarks to the butterfly – “you’ve changed” and the butterfly responds “We’re supposed to”.
All week I had been stumped on how to write about Poignant Procedure and Purpose. The procedure of writing was pretty clear as I had been doing it for 12 days prior. Even the purpose was usually inspired most days and sharing stories and feelings of my personal truth. I think I was really hung up on the word poignant.
When I initially chose it as part of the title of this blog, I had a different meaning in my head. But I was just stubborn that changing it should not happen. There was a feeling in my gut that it needed to remain and that I must grow towards it overcoming the mental obstacles surrounding it. Even if that meant breaking my commitment to writing every day and publishing as originally promised. It was in this forgiveness to myself by breaking the every day commitment that I found and felt the moment of poignancy. As stated above, poignant – affecting or moving the emotions.
I am in my cocoon still. Moving my emotions and changing them is what I am supposed to do at this time in my life. I am changing and the emotions must as well.
I am becoming a butterfly and going thru things in a space I never had before. I as the caterpillar don’t know that I am becoming the butterfly. I just am. But this is definitely supposed to happen the way that it is.
My reflection no longer looks like what I am use to. But it is still me. The procedure of change is foreign when we are inside the cocoon. Other life is happening outside of it. But everyone on the outside only knows change is happening to us. They certainly don’t know what that feels like or looks like or what our end result will be. We are the only ones inside our purpose. Everyone will one day see the purpose as you fly away into the horizon but they will never live your procedure even if they know it exists.
Even when we are stumped, confused, halted, dormant, or give ourselves permission to take a break and have some fun, just remember – WE ARE SUPPOSED TO CHANGE. There is so much purpose for everything we go thru to make that change.
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