May 14, 2021
Blog Episode 14
What is Lost, What Remains.
If you follow my writing of Lighthouse 11 blogs, you know I got behind starting with what would have been yesterday’s blog. So, May 14 would have been the eight year and one month dateaversary with my boyfriend who passed a couple years ago.
I have learned a lot about loss in the last few years. I have lost both my parents, my boyfriend, uite a few friends, changed homes, helped my parents downsize a couple of times, my health changed and a whole variety of other things.
Then 2020 happened. So many have posted their thoughts on the subject.
So many had loss of jobs, loved ones, homes, etc. Mine just happened to have a lifelong group of loss along with a global loss that I share with all.
I sort of feel mystified that my life crisis and midlife crisis came when there were so many actual crises around the entire globe. It was definitely a lot to take in. Mostly because my personal loss meant that a support system, as I had known my whole life was not there for some of the biggest events and happenings in my lifetime.
I continue to grieve many things as I know others do. And over time I grew to start asking the question what remains? Well, a lot actually. And so many new fresh discoveries as well.
In the time I have lost so many, I have started life coach training, made lots of new friends thru different coaching events. My coaching class has been one of the best things as it brought me to ten people I can count on weekly and have been a recipient of the greatest amount of empathy for me.
What remains is ME.
I am literally in a changed world in every scope of the word change. How I see myself in it. How I see others rapidly changing too. We are on the ride still and it is not slowing down. Some might not feel so well as if an amusement park ride has upset their physiology. We really don’t get to time how long this will go. Sometimes we don’t always have a choice, once we start feeling poor. But if we are fortunate, we adjust and adapt.
We make bargains with our minds in how we move forward. The mind gets to control so much. Its receptors to each part of our body in addition to each thought that leads to feelings. To declare action and create a plan for future endeavors that may bring us back to the same point.
We don’t get to dictate what happens. We do have what remains. How we cope. How we view and perceive. We do get to make choices with all the new information available. We get to teach and practice and plan.
Coaching allows you to figure out what remains. Not just from a perspective of loss but also from choice of how do you want to live your life and how do you want that to look.
During coaching you can clear a space for a situation or goal to see what remains from your experiences, issues, struggles, etc and plan what to do with it. Our bodies and minds have all gone thru trauma the last few years in varying degrees. Sometimes even without profound loss, we believe one way based on how much remains or if it was replaced. We that are fortunate to still live on the planet, we remain. We are HERE and that matters.
My life is different from a few years ago. I am sure yours is also. It is okay. We have all of these new beginnings to look forward to and take action to better days.
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