June 2, 2021
Blog Episode 33
Drive, Discipline and Dunking Donuts
2nd day of a new month.
Each month there is a first day and a new chance to treat it like New Year’s Day resolutions could happen.
But then the 2nd day comes. For some, the resolutions stick and for some they are already off after just a few hours. In recent years, the “experts” have told us to take a cheat day. Now I have a friend that their cheat day is ridiculous looking in the amount they eat and what they eat. But every day that is not a cheat day, they are doing the most strenuous, over the top workouts in what they do, how long they do it and how many days they do it. In his case, yes, he is allowed for the entire box of donuts. The rest of us, well, we need to find moderation even on a cheat day.
Learning drive doesn’t really happen like that. It is just something within us. What can happen is how we improve on our drive that already exists. Discipline absolutely can be learned. Over time, stress, lack of resources, the daily grind, anxiety, up and down depression and other things lead to our choices that aren’t always ones in our best interest.
June 4 is Donut day by the way.
Is it a mindset or a discipline of pushing past our obstacles? Is it something within us or can be learned? Are there people just born with a better skill set to cope or were they lucky enough to have their experiences in the right order or progression that allowed them at pivotal moments to learn at a gradual level?
I think that it is all the above. It doesn’t matter the circumstances but our desire to take a pivotal moment and make a choice. It can be in small turtle steps that will get us to the goal just as well as a hard sprint push or a marathon push. Movement for our bodies has always been a catalyst for more movement once our muscle memory takes a hold of it. That is the same with our mindset. The more we practice that our choices are always present, we can start to accept that doing will make a change and so on.
Each moment we choose, we are changing our circumstance and that changes our thoughts and feelings. We receive more knowledge, energy that lessens our anxiety, and a change in our brains that actually gives us courage. It is a metamorphosis that takes time but it happens. Drive and discipline are things that may aid in our connection between thoughts and feelings. Self-talk is one thing I have had my own personal issues with for a long time. But I am learning my own discipline regarding it. I am a pretty positive person in general, especially when it comes to everyone else. Thru coaching, I have been using the very tools I have learned to help all of you, to help myself. Each day my drive varies and that is also something I am taking a look at. Circumstances sure play into that. But the discipline I have found thru being coached is something that makes each moment a little easier. It allows me to vent, to examine, to get a handle on external vs internal dialogue and where the root is actually from.
The drive when I think about my goals, just skyrockets me into action. I find my groove. I am able to build on each block and have a feeling of satisfaction. I see patterns thru my life of my efforts and it was after being coached myself that I finally started breaking thru some barriers and my strides began to exponentially take me upwards instead of laterally.
I admit to still having patterns but being aware of my donut response sure allows me to gain a handle on my drive and discipline. Plus being a type 2 diabetic, donuts are just a no for me anyways. Cold turkey survival will do that. I know that I am capable of a LOT and that the impulses are still there for the donuts even if I can’t eat them. That taught me a lot about myself to recognize my triggers. Since 2014, I now have been able to discern eating and emotional eating much better. I still have to work on my coping skills, especially these last few years. But my drive is high and that allows me to get up each day and pace myself while always focusing on my present and future. I really don’t look back the way I use to. It is a feeling that
I am still getting use to quite frankly. It is a good feeling that I am still sitting in. Who knew you had to learn to absorb GOOD. But that is what I am doing. Reversing a lifetime of whatever you want to call it that wasn’t serving you is an action and that is where I am. With coaching, I know drive, discipline, donut feelings and doing are things that mesh and can be sorted in the choices made.
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