May 26, 2021
Blog Episode 26
Sit Back, Put Your Feet Up, SET BACKS are HERE.
Just a few days from Memorial Day. A holiday when we are going to see the world look quasi normal compared to 2020’s Memorial Holiday. While not everyone is resuming 100% of the activities that the nation use to know, the airports, the highways, the beaches, the tourism and travel industry is picking up speed at a rapid rate.
What last year taught us was we were not going anywhere, to sit back, put our feet up and deal with the set backs of disappointment that were here.
I know our essential workers not only didn’t get to sit back but went into overdrive like no other time in recent history. For that I say thank you. I hope this year’s holiday allows it to be your turn to be at the pool, beach, small backyard bbq’s, etc.
In 2020, I heard the expression “A setback is really time for a comeback”. In the latter half of 2020, I certainly saw that escalate.
Businesses either began to rebound or even more so, people laid off or lost their jobs entirely began to utilize the time to see what really mattered to them and begin to go after their dreams of business ownership or a new pursuit. For the first time in a long time, a section of the population by virtue of everything that had distracted them before was gone and they started from scratch with new enthusiasm.
Now getting started in a business pursuit, especially if you have never done it before is a journey that is so exciting to me. It is challenging, I have had my own share of set backs and yet I am learning to sit back, put my feet up and the first time in three years letting myself relax when I need to. I am not pushing myself into an early grave. The things that are important will get done. The jewel of creating this business by myself and for myself is that I get to dictate the timeline.
For the first time, I am open to the setbacks and what they teach me. I had the setback last week of not blogging each day for about nine days. But when I started writing again, I had content falling into my lap like rain in a rain barrel. It was amazing how sitting back and adjusting my mindset, allowed my mind to free up and be kinder to myself. The rewards and blessings flowed in like a gusher.
The cosmos (or in my case GOD) never gives us more than we can handle. It doesn’t always feel that way but trust me, after the last few years I have had, I can still say today that this is absolutely true to my core. It is an energy of goodness and compassion and I am in his care. Maybe that is my FAITH that reminds me of that. I know not everyone will have gone thru these tests or tribulations yet, the energy shift didn’t fit the original plan, the patterns that we have always had or societal norms says to push ourselves cause that is how we get things done.
One of things I am getting better with is setting time limits when a setback occurs. I give myself to rest, grieve, whine, complain. But then when the alarm sounds, I reprioritize, roll up my sleeves and get right back to work in my energy. By allowing my emotions to process, I am then ready for the task at hand.
Because I am doing this business by myself and for myself, I can authentically assess my skill sets, when to delegate to others which may mean hiring someone like an accountant or an attorney or confer with other coaches or business owners. I take stock in my strengths and weaknesses. I am seeing the patterns of setbacks and how I cope. I am better about blind spots and any envy I have in those blind spots. We are all different. Period.
Some things will come so naturally for me that I almost feel guilty and other things feel so impossible that I need to let go when it is not in my capability and know to ask for help.
I am a fact finder per the Kolbe test. Now this next point gets tricky for me. I am an Empath and I truly feel when others are in pain and in the past have absorbed that pain. I am getting better at this to take my emotion out of it and grateful that coach training has given me this gift. I know now how to ask for more information from my clients and leave my thoughts out of it. The direction my clients want to go is up to them and by letting them discover that without guiding questions from me, I am able to coach them in what is best for them because it truly comes from them. I know it sounds odd that I actually keep my opinion to a minimum during the sessions when you come for help, but trust me I have watched this work since October and it is extraordinary how the plan is detailed for YOU inside of this method.
By looking at the facts, understanding how your thoughts and feelings inside of a circumstance use to dictate your action, we are now in a better place to feed your present moments with what the situation requires. The turtle steps start to make sense. Narrowing the problem down to one thing at a time takes the overwhelm away from the stacked issues that we face. I have watched and experienced the ripple effect of the many problems disappeared. That left less to tackle and the progress exponentially improved.
The evolution of solving problems is a process.
There will be setbacks for everything we do for all time. The size will vary. Learning what we have learned and keeping that so next time we don’t repeat negative actions will be a success in itself.
When you desire the end goal and accept the work in the middle, your strengths and weaknesses and make the choice to learn no matter what, you will find a way.
Each day when we make the choice to go after our dreams and extend ourselves, we have the usual internal dialogue that puts up road blocks. In coaching, I will help you manage that dialogue so you may focus on what you need to do next. Recognizing that the “they” we talk about who are preventing in the end may actually be Me, Myself and I and that trio in the “they” needs to know you aren’t going to take it anymore. YOU LOVE YOU and that includes the flaws and everything. You are wonderful, worthy and so much more.
So sit back, put your feet up, know that set backs are here and that you got this.
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